How to Make Shuttling Between Households Easier
© 2008 Bill Nodrick, PhD & Bev Nodrick, RSW
Shuttling between different households is the norm for many children living in stepfamilies. These “transitions” can be exceptionally trying for everyone involved. Following are 21 strategies you can use to minimize difficulties that are likely to appear at these times.
1. Once a "visitation
schedule" is in place, STICK TO IT. As difficult as it may be, do
your best to resist invitations, suggestions and pleas to be
"flexible" or "accommodating". Rest assured, departing
from the explicit terms of the schedule will open up your family to intrusion
and chaos that will be a lot harder to deal with than being firm with the
schedule from the outset.
The kids involved will be much happier if their schedule is not always being
disrupted by “last minute” changes.
2. Post a calendar reflecting the
schedule on the fridge. Explain it to the kids. Use icons or pictures to help
younger children understand where they will be residing. After providing your
best explanation, tell the kids that, if they have questions, they can come to
you, and that you will do your level best to answer them honestly and
Giving the kids knowledge of the schedule that is in place for them reassures
them that their world is not spinning totally out of control.
3. Prepare a checklist of all of the "essentials" the child will need...
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